Marching Mardi Gras for Mental Health 

hello • 26 February 2018

Craig Mack, R U OK? Ambassador

“Hey babe, R U OK?”.

 

As an Ambassador for suicide prevention charity R U OK? I’ve been on both sides of this question more times than you can imagine. It may seem like a small question yet it’s one so many of us struggle to ask and answer, partly because we don’t always know how. For those experiencing depression though, it’s proof that people care. For friends and family supporting them, it helps to create a connection. No matter how you look at it, this simple question can be a much-needed light in the darkness.

It’s a heartbreaking fact that the LGBTIQ+ community is more vulnerable to depression, anxiety, social isolation and thoughts of suicide. We can all be the light that helps though. Many of us don’t know that starting a life changing conversation can be as simple asking the small but powerful question “R U OK?”. Whilst it’s not always an easy conversation to have, R U OK?’s 4 simple steps can guide you through it and help you Ask, Listen, Encourage action and Check in to relight a spark, just by being a friend.

I signed on as an R U OK? Ambassador because I’ve lived on the roller coaster of depression for most of my life. I wanted to use my own experiences to shine a light on the issue, break down stigma, spread the word of how we can all help and just maybe, create some positive change. I do what I do because I want to see fiercer queens, healthier bears, livelier lesbians, more confident queers and a more connected and informed community, and I’m sparkling with excitement for Mardi Gras this year.

It’s R U OK?’s second time in the parade but I’ve been marching my way through Mardi Gras in everything from drag to a leather jockstrap since the 90’s. This year will be my 8th time in the parade, this year feels different though. R U OK? has been nominated as Community Initiative / Charity of the Year in the Australian LGBTI Awards and Casey Donovan, Steven Oliver and 80 other people who genuinely care are marching with us as we celebrate 40 years of Mardi Gras and our diverse, strong and ever evolving LGBT+ community. I’m quietly confident that 2018 will be my best Mardi Gras yet!

R U OK? may only be one day a year, but every day is a great day to have a conversation that could change a life.

If one of your mates doesn’t seem like themselves and you’re not sure what to do, check out our 4 Steps to Starting a Conversation here.

 

If you’re experiencing feelings of depression or isolation or thoughts of suicide, there are plenty of support services that understand and can help. Be sure to get in touch with Qlife , Lifeline , Suicide Call Back Service or the supports here.


14 December 2025
The recent incident in Sydney has left many feeling distressed and overwhelmed, and you may notice the children in your life are struggling too. Below, you’ll find advice from mental health experts on caring for your own wellbeing, and providing meaningful support to others in the days and weeks ahead. Talking to children about traumatic events Children are likely to have seen and heard distressing information about this incident. Ongoing news coverage, images and discussion can intensify feelings of anxiety, sadness and anger. The Child Mind Institute has published a practical guide to help parents and carers talk with children about traumatic events. The guide offers practical age-specific advice and has been developed by experts in child psychology, you can access this guide here . Events involving violence or serious harm can be especially difficult for children to understand or discuss. The guide focuses on helping children feel safe, supported and reassured, and encourages parents, carers or guardians to: Provide comfort and reassurance, including physical affection Remain calm and measured when discussing the event Maintain regular routines to restore a sense of normality Encourage play, connection and time with others Share honest, age-appropriate information from trusted sources Limit children’s exposure to news, especially younger children Listen patiently and validate children’s feelings Recognise that fear, anger, sadness or guilt are all normal reactions Looking after yourself, and supporting others Rachel Clements, R U OK? Advisor, and Director of Psychological Services at Centre for Corporate Health, said strong emotional reactions are normal and healthy for people of all ages following public acts of violence, even among those not directly impacted. “Some reactions that are incredibly normal are concern, shock, horror, disbelief. When that wears off sometimes, people experience stronger feelings, sometimes anger, despair, sadness, anxiety or fear-based behaviour."  Ms Clements advised that connecting with friends, sporting clubs, or workplace networks, and simply asking ‘are you OK?’, can play a key role in supporting people experiencing distress. "This event will disrupt the nervous system. One of the most important things we can do is stay connected, talk to each other and lean into supportive conversations,” Ms Clements said. She suggested starting a genuine conversation by asking questions such as: 'it's been tough watching this information coming to light, how are you feeling about it?’ “Then, all you’ve got to do is listen with empathy, without judgment or interruption, and just allow someone to talk about their experience and how they are feeling. When it is the right time in the conversation, you can then gently guide someone towards supportive actions, like doing some gentle exercise, staying connected with friends and family, or maintaining regular routines.” Ms Clements emphasised the importance of checking in again to ensure people have continued support. If you notice someone’s distress is ongoing for several weeks and begins to affect their work or social life, professional help should be encouraged. If you or the children in your care are experiencing ongoing distress, consider speaking with a doctor or another trusted healthcare provider. Free and professional 24/7counselling services are available, find contact details here . If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 000. Ask R U OK? Any Day.
11 December 2025
This year, Australians continued to grow their confidence and capability to ask, 'are you OK?' any day of the year - reminding us how real connection and meaningful conversations can happen in the most ordinary, everyday moments. Across every age and stage of life, people helped normalise these important check-ins by looking out for one another, reducing stigma, and driving genuine change. Thanks to our supporters, awareness continues to expand in schools, workplaces, sporting clubs, and communities in every corner of Australia. Thank you to everyone who started conversations, and to everyone who supported the mission and work of R U OK?. Below is a short video which shares a glimpse of the activity made possible through collaboration. *Voice-over by former-CEO, Katherine Newton.
10 December 2025
From growing up on farms to a shared interest in history, Australians, young and old, are discovering just how much they have in common, and how storytelling can connect generations in unexpected ways. What’s bringing them together is 'Heart and Soul Story', a social enterprise that fosters intergenerational connections. Through its programs, young people and older generations come together in aged care homes and schools to share stories, build life skills, and prevent loneliness. At a recent session which encouraged everyone to Ask R U OK? Any Day, students visited an aged-care community with R U OK? Conversation Bingo cards, which feature prompts to spark humour, curiosity, and connection.
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