R U OK? supporter Catie Blacker shares her story and why opening up if you aren't ok is so important

Often the stigma and negative opinions surrounding depression are a major reason why we choose to not talk about our mental health.

It’s important to acknowledge that this is a major barrier to fixing what may be wrong.

We shouldn’t be afraid to share how we feel, the struggles we face, and the stories that shape us. When we are open we are able to encourage others to be open.

At 3 years old my world was turned upside-down. Whilst I may not have been old enough to understand, what happened still affects me to this day. My mother lost her silent struggle with depression.

Although I wasn’t born very long ago, the attitude towards depression and its understanding have changed quite a lot. People weren’t aware that asking a simple question like, “Are you OK?” and being equipped with knowledge and resources to help if the answer was no, could make all the difference.

Growing up I faced my own battles with mental illness and as a result often questioned myself, my relationships and the world I live in. Lucky for me, I had a supportive, loving and understanding family who were always there to provide a listening ear when it was needed. I was constantly encouraged to not give up, and to make this world a place I wanted to live in.

I am so fortunate to have grown up in a time where the understanding of mental health and all the treatments and resources available are a part of everyday life. Thanks to R U OK?Day I am growing up in a world full of meaningful conversations, where people are encouraged to ask their mates how they’re doing and then providing support. In this world, a simple conversation can save a life.

Make a promise today to remember to reach out to a friend. If you are worried that the problem may be too big for you to help, encourage them to seek professional support. Your GP is a great place to start, Lifeline are available 24/7 on 13 11 14 and other supports, forums and tools can be found at www.ruok.org.au/find-help

It’s important to remember that if someone asks you if you are OK, to not be afraid to say you aren’t.

Don’t let your friends, daughters, brothers and sisters face a world without you.

Trust me, you will be missed.